Healing the Broken Hearted
“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised …” (Luke 4:18)
Dear Fellow Pilgrims, my Brothers and Sisters in Christ,
There is perhaps nothing more pernicious that can happen to us than the experience of a broken heart. Not only does a “broken heart” cause emotional damage to the person involved but it also causes spiritual damage because it provides an entrance to the enemy of our souls into our lives. An unresolved inner hurt that is not spiritually resolved provides the enemy a foothold (stronghold) in our spirit that leads us into un-forgiveness, addictive immoral behavior, or worse, thus preventing us from establishing a full and complete relationship with the Holy Trinity because it inhibits our ability to love as Jesus loved and to walk as Jesus walked.
A broken heart is an inner emotional hurt that can be brought about by a variety of causes, the main ones being :
1. Result of an offense* brought to us from others.
* (People say and do things to hurt us): cf.,Proverbs 18:8.
2. Result from our own sinful behavior: cf., Psalms 25:18, Proverbs 17:19,
II Samuel 24:10.
3. Result from a calamity where one is overcome by the experience:
cf., Job 3:25-26
4. Result of the sins of the forefathers: cf., Exodus 34:6-7.
5. Result from drug and alcohol use: cf., Proverbs 23:29-35.
6. Result from occult involvement: cf., Leviticus 20:6.
Now it must be made clear that, in the case of personal offenses, as mentioned in item 1, are, in some cases, only “perceived” offenses. That is, the offense is only perceived by the person affected and is not an intentional offense by the other person. The offense, however, is as real to the affected person as an intentional offense because the affected person makes a judgment about the “intent” of the other party – a judgment that is never resolved because the affected person immediately severs the relationship with the other, thus never engaging the other in dialogue to inquire as to the true motives behind what was taken as an offense. And, even if dialogue later occurs, the person affected has so bought into his/her judgment that admitting an error of judgment would bring about self-condemnation.
That is why the gospels tell us that If we feel we have been emotionally injured we should privately bring it to the attention of the one who hurt us and enter into dialogue with that person. If this is done early in the situation you may find that the person may not even realize he/she had hurt you, and if they did realize it, your initiative provides them the opportunity to apologize and be reconciled with you.
“If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one.” (Matt. 18:15)
So many times our pride or self-justification gets in the way and something that could be resolved through a logical explanation of some human error that occurred without evil intent grows into a major wounding of the heart and the unnecessary breaking of a relationship. In fact, it becomes a virtual prison for those who cannot forgive. Listen to what Jesus tells His disciples:
“You have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, ‘You shall not murder’; and ‘whoever murders shall be liable to judgment.’ But I say to you that if you are angry with a brother or sister [or, mother or father], you will be liable to judgment; and if you insult a brother or sister, you will be liable to the council; and if you say, ‘You fool,’ you will be liable to the hell of fire.
So when you are offering your gift at the altar, if you remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother or sister, and then come and offer your gift. Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are on the way to court with him, or your accuser may hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you will be thrown into prison. Truly I tell you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny”. (Matt. 5:21-26)
In most cases “Broken Heartedness” can also lead to “Hardness of Heart”, where the injured soul retreats into a “shell” to protect itself from further hurt. But in so doing, the heart is hardened so that all communications attempting to break into the shell are ignored and thus a vicious trap closes around the individual. Such traps are termed the “Snare of the Fowler” by certain scriptures (cf.,Psalm 91: 3 ff.)
Now, it must be said that “Broken Heartedness” that is caused by coming to an awareness of one’s own sinful state (see item 2 above) can lead to repentance and conversion. This is the godly sorrow of which scripture speaks. It is the godly sorrow that fell on Peter upon realizing that he had disowned His Master and Lord in the events following the arrest of Jesus at Gethsemani. This godly sorrow usually comes when the Holy Spirit convicts us of sin and does not lead us to hardness of heart but instead breaks through the shell we have placed around ourselves. This is what the scripture tells us about his type of sorrow,
“The LORD is near to the brokenhearted,
and saves the crushed in spirit.” (Ps. 34:18)
God also gives the strength to resist or endure a broken heart as when Paul was returning to Jerusalem and was warned by the prophet Agabus about what would happen to him if he continued on his way – setting all the community to weeping…
“ While we were staying there for several days, a prophet named Agabus came down from Judea. He came to us and took Paul’s belt, bound his own feet and hands with it, and said, “Thus says the Holy Spirit, ‘This is the way the Jews in Jerusalem will bind the man who owns this belt and will hand him over to the Gentiles.’” When we heard this, we and the people there urged him not to go up to Jerusalem. Then Paul answered, “What are you doing, weeping and breaking my heart? For I am ready not only to be bound but even to die in Jerusalem for the name of the Lord Jesus.” Since he would not be persuaded, we remained silent except to say, “The Lord’s will be done.” (Acts 21:10-14)
The Lord Jesus Himself experienced a broken heart on several occasions but did not let this brokenness hinder his mission and obedience to the Father’s will. For instance when …
a.) Jesus wept over Jerusalem (Lk. 13:34),
b) Jesus wept before the tomb of Lazarus (Jn. 11:35),
c) Jesus, on the cross exclaimed,
“My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?” (Matt. 27:46, Mark 15:34 )
and then says in faith,
“Father, Into thy hands I commend my spirit” (Luke 23:46)
It was also prophesied that Jesus’ mother Mary would suffer a broken heart,
“Then Simeon blessed them and said to his mother Mary, “This child is destined for the falling and the rising of many in Israel, and to be a sign that will be opposed, so that the inner thoughts of many will be revealed—and a sword will pierce your own soul [heart] too.” (Luke 2:34-35)
In these cases we see that, through Faith in God and His Word, the Grace of God helps us to endure the pain and attain a spiritual victory over a “Wounded Heart” even though we have been exposed to tremendous emotional suffering. It of course requires a deep spiritual maturity which most of us are still lacking.
Because “Broken Heartednss” occurs through a broad spectrum of human events, I am recommending an internet posting that summarizes the main problems that arise when we encounter situations in our lives that deeply wound us in the spirit (ie., our heart). You may connect to the site by clicking on the following title: “Dealing with a Wounded Heart”
Of course, since the article is intended only as a summary of several approaches to the problem, you need to pray for the inspiration and guidance of the Holy Spirit before you take any action in this regard. The reason being is that every case is sufficiently different so that only the Lord’s specific guidance will lead you to the specific prayers and resulting actions you need to take for your own or for a friend/s particular situation.
In praying, just remember, “Nothing is impossible for God”, pray in faith, through the Word, in the Spirit and persist,never giving up. For the Lord cares for the broken-hearted to heal them and deliver them from the oppression of the enemy. Let the Spirit guide you because only the Spirit knows what is in the hearts of men.
I personally have found the guidance provided in this article in conjunction with prayer and meditation on God’s word to be of great benefit and consolation in dealing with emotional hurts. I pray that it will also be of help to you as we all walk along the Lord’s narrow path to spiritual maturity.
Praised Be His Holy Name!
Your fellow Pilgrim and Brother in Christ … Bartimeaus
(© B.R.Timeo and Bartimaeus’ Quiet Place, [2008-2011])
 list excerpted from reference article “The Wounded Heart”
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Here is a brief list scriptures you might consider for your meditation:
(Luke 4:18) “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised …”
(Ps. 51:17) The sacrifice acceptable to God is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.
(Ps. 34:18) “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
(Ps. 27:10) “Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.”
(Joshua 1:5) “… I will never leave you nor forsake you.”.
(John 15:9) “Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love ……..”
More Comfort From the Word of God
(Ps. 41:4) “I said, Lord, be merciful and gracious to me, heal my inner self, for I have sinned against You. “
(Ps. 146:3) “He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds” (curing their pains and their sorrows.)
(John 7:38) “He who believes in Me (who cleaves to and trust in and relies on Me) as the Scripture said, From his innermost being shall flow (continuously) springs and rivers of living water”.
(John 15:10-11) “If you keep my commandments (if you continue to obey My instructions), you will abide in My love and live on in it, just as I have obeyed My Father’s commandments and live on in His love. If have told you these things, that My joy and delight may be in you, and that your joy and gladness be of full measure and complete and overflowing.”
(Eph. 3:16) “May He grant you out of the rich treasury of His glory to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power in the inner man by the (Holy Spirit) (Himself indwelling your innermost being and personality)”.
(Prov. 17:22) “A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.”